The mental game

The pandemic has caused more stress levels about work, health, money, relationships, and other parts of life. The economy and world events and constant inflow of information on social media are causing a never-ending flood of stimulation. All of these factors and other underlying situations we find ourselves in will cause us to feel drained mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and this can cause us to be off-center in whatever it is we do in life. Unlike a cold or flu, one cannot always detect when we’re in need of a mental break, and keeping a strong mind is paramount in today’s times.

In the world of customer service and sales, there is constant switching of gears and situations that our minds must figure out in order to get through the day. I personally have my own ways to help me stay on top of my mental game for what I do for a living.  There are numerous ways to keep your mind functioning in tip-top shape but I will highlight some of my favorite methods in hope that you can see how they work for you or find some of your own.

Method 1: Physical exercise

I am a firm believer in having a healthy body. Gym or no gym I have a workout plan I utilized that yielded me good results. It is scientifically proven that exercise has numerous benefits such as benefits to bone health, energy levels and gets the blood flowing to wake you up more before you head to the shop, office, or wherever you work. Utilize various workouts from cardio, plyometrics, yoga, powerlifting, etc. no matter what keep moving and work that heart rate up. Your body will thank you for it.

Method 2: Remembering your why and positive self-talk

Goals are achieved by remembering what got you there and sticking to them. Maybe your goal is to close a million dollars in sales deals, win a sports competition, build a business. Whatever that goal is, remember to keep in mind WHY you are doing it. Is it to make a better life for yourself and your family? Is it to put your name in a record book for athletics? Is it to be the top salesman for your company to eventually become a sales manager? Keep your why in front of you and you will be able to keep onto your motivation to keep pressing forward. In conjunction with this, positive self-talk will help encourage you to keep up the great work. I recall a time in my childhood when my father would have me stand in the mirror and proclaim that “I am somebody, I am successful, I am capable” I would do this daily (and I still do to this day) and it would reinforce that no matter what I have what it takes to be successful in whatever I put my hand towards. These help with shaping confidence and instilling it deep within you. Even when you make a mistake treat it as a learning opportunity to improve, failure is fuel for eventual success.

Method 3: dealing with opposition (aka haters and doubters) are secret fans and blocking out excess noise

Focus is important in keeping your mental game in optimum efficiency. In life, you will have opposition and people who may prove to be naysayers and detractors. In life, there will be a constant conversation one any and everything and sometimes you might be the topic of conversation. It is important to block out the distractions that will take you off your path to achieving your goal (destructive habits/behaviors, associating with the wrong crowd, etc.) and forge ahead. There will be those that talk about you in the pursuit of your goals, give them something to talk about once you accomplish the goal you set out to accomplish. I am a believer that hecklers and naysayers are secretly a fan deep down somewhere inside and if you have some feel free to rejoice. To quote Winston Churchill “You’ve made enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something sometime in your life.”

Method 4: knowing when to take a break and when to ask for help

It is important to be able to take a break as I have highlighted once before. I have learned that you cannot be switched to “on” 24/7 because our minds are like our bodies, there is a need for rest. Without taking a break (via a few minutes away from the work, taking that lunch break, going on vacation, or taking a day off) there is a risk of burnout. When burnout happens, it can hit like a truck and derail your ambitions to accomplish your goals. I believe in taking at least one personal day per month if I already don’t have a vacation planned out to give myself time to take care of myself and other matters of business if needed. Take time out to get a massage, cook a home-cooked meal, spend time with your loved ones or just read or spend time outdoors. It is also important to know if you get overwhelmed it is fine to ask for help. In our culture, we tend to neglect our vacation and sick time to take care of ourselves and we are prone not to ask for help and just try to take it all on alone. No man is an island, no one individual can make a car or even a pencil. It is fine to ask for help at work, with loved ones, or if needed professional help via a therapist.  It is ok to recognize that you need a break and need a second to breathe o need a little help. To continue to perform at high levels athletes need trainers to keep them sharp and recovery methods to keep their bodies in top form, the same applies for us as individuals.

I have shared some of the different ways that you can stay on top of your mental game and keep yourself in top form when getting to where you want to be in life. There is no one way to achieve having a better warranty on your mental health and these methods (and others) may vary in terms of your results. I encourage you to find ways that work for you if one doesn’t work for you. I hope that you can take what I have brought forth and use it to better your own mental state to stay sharp. Until next time dear readers, excelsior.

Taking a time to take a time out

Here’s a cup of chill for your chill pill

Life moves fast. We’re constantly on the go and it is always a steady hustle and bustle. We as a society are busy to the point of it gets stressful to keep firing on all cylinders. One thing that is neglected often is the importance of having time to take off from our busy plates and take the time to recalibrate and rest.

As someone who is a self professed workaholic, i am an advocate of taking some time for a vacation or even a personal day to just unwind from being always “on”. There many benefits to being able to take some time for yourself especially for your career. Taking a personal day/vacation time is important for a healthy work life balance. Once you take some time off from what you have focused so much of your time and energy on you’ll find yourself psychologically refreshed , improved focus, overall better balance between work and life. You will also notice that you’ll have time to catch up on things you might not have had time for when you didn’t before and even time to enjoy things you normally don’t such as a hobby or time with loved ones. You don’t need to have a two week retreat to tahiti necessarily (though if you want to do that I say go for it!). Even if you take a personal day per month or a leave for specific purposes like our friends in the uk. You will be able to find a better balance and it will help you in your longevity and satisfaction in your career.

The workforce is changing and according to a study the work day has lengthened and people are taking less breaks making it harder to find balance. Did you know in 2018 768 million vacation days were left unused? That is a lot of unused pto that is lost if it’s not rolled over or cashed out. Some occupations lack paid time off which forces workers to miss pay if they are not present. We know making money is important but we are human and we have other obligations outside of our career such as family, friends, hobbies and interest and our own sanity. Our constantly bustling culture is making us lose our sense of self and lose sight of things we enjoy. If left unchecked there are consequences from our health, relationships and overall career satisfaction and performance (burnout, health issues, poor performance etc)

Taking time off is an often neglected part of our busybody culture. We need to place more emphasis on taking time to step away to refocus and recalibrate for the sake of longevity and satisfaction in terms of one’s career. For those that do not offer pto i encourage a way to find a way to make them happen and for those that do not take a personal day or vacation to take one. It will do wonders for you. Until the next time my friends excelsior!